Choosing the right school for my SEND child
Choosing the best school for your child can seem overwhelming at first, but there are many ways to make the process easier and find a place where your child can thrive. Start by considering what is most important to your family—such as location, school values, teaching style, and your child's specific needs. Visiting different schools, talking to teachers, and meeting other families can give you a real sense of what each school is like and help you feel more confident in your decision.
Many children with special educational needs or disabilities (SEND) do well and are happy in mainstream schools. These schools often have experienced staff and resources to support a wide range of needs. It’s helpful to ask about the support available, such as learning assistants, special programs, and access to therapy or quiet spaces. Don’t hesitate to share your child’s interests and challenges so the school can work with you to create the best environment for them.
All schools should help every child reach their full potential and make sure everyone feels included. Schools must provide support that matches your child's unique needs. If your child needs extra help, schools have a duty to make reasonable adjustments. You can also ask about how the school works with parents and specialists to review and update your child’s support plan.
When should I start looking at schools?
Primary schools
Many families start looking into primary school options when their child is around 2 to 3 years old. This can be a helpful time to explore what different schools offer, especially if your child will be starting Reception at age 4. For parents of SEND children, this is also a good opportunity to visit schools and ask questions about support and inclusion.
Secondary Schools
If your child is approaching secondary school, it can be helpful to begin exploring options in Year 5 (around age 9 or 10). Starting early gives you plenty of time to visit schools, attend open days, and have thoughtful conversations with staff about the support available for children with SEND. Taking things at your own pace can help you and your child feel more prepared and reassured when it’s time to apply in Year 6. Remember, it’s okay to ask as many questions as you need—schools are there to help and support your whole family every step of the way.
Visit more than one school
Visiting a few different schools can help you get a feel for what might be best for your child. Notice how staff interact with children, what support is available, and whether the school feels welcoming. It’s always okay to ask questions—schools expect it and want to help you feel comfortable in your decision.
Ask to meet the Special Education Needs Coordinator (SENCo)
The Special Educational Needs Coordinator (SENCo) is often the main person leading support for children with SEND at school. When you visit, you might like to meet the SENCo to find out more about how they can help. It’s okay to ask about their experience with children who have similar needs, how support works day to day, and how they stay in touch with families. The SENCo will be happy to talk with you about how they work with teachers and parents so every child can do well. You might also want to ask about staff training, how your child’s progress will be checked, and what happens if your child ever needs extra help or a change in support. Remember, you are welcome to ask any questions that help you feel comfortable and informed.
Think about the school environment
As you visit schools, take time to notice the details that matter for your child. You might want to look at how classrooms are set up, what lunchtime and breaktimes are like, and how the school helps children move between lessons. It can be reassuring to see if there are quiet spaces or sensory-friendly areas where your child can have a break if they need it. These small things can make a big difference in helping your child feel comfortable and supported at school.
Transition support
Starting a new school is a big step for both you and your child. It’s natural to feel a mix of excitement and nerves about this change. Many schools understand that moving to a new environment can feel overwhelming, especially for children with SEND. That’s why some schools offer extra visits or special transition plans to help children get used to their new surroundings at their own pace. These additional visits can give your child time to meet teachers, explore the building, and start to feel more comfortable before the first day. You can ask schools what support they offer during this transition period, and whether you and your child can be involved in planning these steps together. Taking things slowly and having extra support can make a big difference in helping your child feel safe, welcome, and ready to learn.
Social and emotional support
How does the school address issues like friendships, bullying, anxiety, and emotional regulation? For example, are there specific programs or staff members dedicated to their social and emotional wellbeing? Is there a pastoral team trained to work with SEND pupils, and what mental health support is available for both children and their families?
Read the school’s SEN information report
Every school is required to share clear information about how they support children with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND). As a parent carer, you should be able to find their SEN information report easily on the school’s website. If you have any trouble locating it or need additional support, don’t hesitate to contact the school directly—they will be happy to help and provide you with a copy. Schools understand that navigating SEND support can feel overwhelming, and they are there to guide you through the process and answer any questions you may have.
Take time to reflect
After you’ve visited potential schools, be gentle with yourself and take the time you need to process your thoughts and feelings. Choosing the right environment for a child with SEND is a big decision, and it’s natural to feel uncertain at times. Making a simple pros and cons list can help you clarify your impressions and compare different options. It can also be very helpful to talk things through with your child, their current teachers, or professionals who know your child well. These conversations can offer valuable perspectives and reassurance as you make your decision. Remember, you are not alone in this process – there are people who want to support you and your child every step of the way.